No one's perfect. We've all heard that and probably said it at least once or twice in our lifetimes. It's easy to say when "the finger" is pointed at us. How quick, though, are we to recall this truth when we're the one pointing "the finger" at our mate?
When we're under stress, it's so much easier to find fault in others while we're quick to dismiss our own sin. We forget all the wonderful attributes about our spouse that drew us into the relationship with him/her. Remember the characteristics that made you want to marry your mate? Remember the compliments you paid one another when you were courting or during the early years of your marriage?
All of those compliments have been stored away in the memories of our mind, but it seems much easier to draw on the comments of depreciation. As we recall those comments of depreciation, we rehearse our response. Before we know it, we've created an argument in our own mind. We have stored ammunition for the next big fight. The biggest problem with this is that bitterness takes root in our marriage, and we can easily fall out of love if we dwell in this place too long.
As the dare has challenged us in previous days, we must choose to leave the depreciative comments behind and focus on the finer things about our mate. It's a conscience decision that we must all make each and every day - especially during times of stress in our marriage.
Sometime today, pick a positive attribute about your spouse and that him/her for having this characteristic.
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